It’s been a mixed day – on the bright side, no food AND I’ve persuaded my partner to put padlocks on the freezer, fridge and cupboard and HE is going to keep the key. We’ve both agreed that I won’t be eating anything – diet coke/water only – until Friday at the earliest, and from then on it will be liquids only (soup etc) for at least three weeks. I know it is wrong – and I think he does as well – and things may change if I get on a decent treatment scheme, but for now, it is the only way I can keep the ‘head-monsters’ in check.
I still intend to take as good care of my body as I can though. I will be working out less – and less strenuously – doing mainly toning exercises, I will be keeping well topped up on fluids, and I bought some more vit C supplements to add to my daily pill intake. And… I’ll be keeping on top of my medical check ups.
For anyone who isn’t aware – ED sufferers have to have VERY frequent blood tests. Mine are fortnightly at present, I expect they will become weekly soon – I used to have fortnightly ECGs as well, but haven’t had one requested in a while *touch wood* as I’ve been between centres. The problem with getting blood tests as an ED patient are very simple:
1. You have to go to see a nurse. Nurses are scary, and usually not trained in eating disorders.
2. They never remember what tests they are supposed to do.
3. Blood is difficult to get if you haven’t been eating…
4. …And nearly impossible if you are dehydrated (from not drinking fluids/purging/overexercising).
So basically, what (for everyone else) takes about five minutes – you (or I, at any rate) must sit in a nurse’s room, while she checks both arms; comments that she can’t get a vein; asks if you’re okay because you’re dizzy again; says ‘ooh your vein has collapsed’*; pokes about six hundred holes in you before finally saying ‘well it isn’t much, but it will have to do’. By the end of this procedure – you feel sick and are covered in little balls of white, fluffy, cotton wool. In fact – you look like a bit like this…
Baaaaaaa!
*’Collapsed vein’ is really not as morbid or serious as it sounds! Just means it has shrunk/flattened because it doesn’t like the needle – understandable!
But… This – or at least the last bit – didn’t happen today! Hooray!!!
I arrived on time for my appointment, I walked to the surgery – as it is another beautiful day 🙂 . I didn’t eat anything yesterday, or this morning, so made sure to glugg down the diet coke – at least I can stay hydrated! The walk was okay… Unfortunately, there was a breeze. So, there’s my partner, walking next to me – perfectly warm and cosy in a t-shirt and shorts. And me, in a couple of layers, FREEZING! Honestly – the wind felt like ice, I had goosebumps all up my arms and legs. I nearly chickened out and went home for the car, but decided getting a little exercise was more important, especially for my mood!
I was (of course) kept waiting at the surgery, til about half an hour after my appointment time. Then… In I went. The nurse was kind enough to remove the dressing from my wrist before we started, which saved me another trip into hospital/back to a doc here (win!). And then… it all went downhill:
“Oh dear… Ooh… At least it’s healed well. You did this last week?” she said, she leant in, and (in perfect slow-motion ‘therapy voice’, nodding in time to the rhythm of her own voice) enunciated: “You aren’t going to do this again now, are you?”
Another nurse walks in the room. No apology – just coming to get something from a drawer. And walked out.
“Have you seen the GP since you did this?” Asked the first nurse.
“No.”
“Well… She might want some more bloods done – I will just check. But first lie down, you’re feeling dizzy.”
“I really prefer sitting…”, I start.
“… Lie down there. There we are. I will just go and check.”
And off she went. I don’t like lying down – I feel vulnerable lying on my back in a stranger’s office. But I was under orders… About a minute after she left: another nurse walked in, she didn’t acknowledge me or my partner, just rooted through the drawers, left.
Ten minutes went by. Yet another nurse came in and flitted around.
At last, nurse no.1 returned, with the GP – but, suddenly, three extra nurses all decided they needed to fetch something from the treatment room too!!! There were now five people, (seven including myself and my partner), crammed into the tiny room… And the GP wanted to talk about my wrist. I didn’t – if I’m honest:
1. I prefer a bit of privacy.
2. I feel sick
3. I wanted to go home,
And
4. I was feeling fed up, crowded – and struggling to understand why my routine blood tests had suddenly turned into ‘must-see medical event of the year’… I think I should charge per head next time! 😉
But the ‘wrist’ conversation went ahead. Then, the GP asked me what blood tests I needed – exactly the same ones that are done every fortnight. And nurse no.1 set to work on my arm – while the other three continued to chat about which papers are in which drawer. The GP kept talking… It turns out, the Eating Disorder clinic are not returning any of her calls, not replying to any messages she leaves, and not even monitoring the bloods that they request. Figures! She asked me to remind them… Not sure they will listen (they don’t usually!), I nodded my weary agreement.
Suddenly, the bloods were out. And I was on my way home.
As I entered the house -‘private number’ was ringing. Finally!!! This must, surely, be the call I was promised, detailing my treatment – telling me about the long-term plan, letting me know about the referral to the other teams?!
“Hello – this is X from the Crisis team. I’m just ringing to remind you your appointment with the Eating Disorder team is on Friday. Make sure you go along. We are handing you over now, so we won’t be ringing or visiting at all any more – it is all up to them.”
And he’s gone… In short, their ‘safety plan’ for me involves: reminding me of the appointment I already have, dropping the phone, and running. Everything I was promised r.e. stable, concrete, plans and interim support until a long term treatment programme was in place, has just gone out of the window. I curl up, and cry. Any hope of solid food or progress ended with this – another top-notch NHS let down.